Wednesday, November 5, 2014

Constructive Criticism v. Destructive Criticism

How do you deal with criticism?

Is there a certain type of personality that deals with criticism better than others?

We all know that critical opinions are a fact of life and oftentimes they can be given in a charitable and constructive way, but then again they can also be used as a defense or barrier for others to hide behind. We are all willing to dish out the critical comments, but more times than not, it is extremely difficult to acknowledge them, let alone accept them.

It is a trait of human beings to pounce on any and every opportunity when it comes to judging others. It either makes us feel better about ourselves or helps us justify our actions by comparing and  contrasting our virtues and vices. It should not be this way! It is easy to dish out the critical comments but it is another thing to accept them as constructive.

There is definitely a difference between constructive and destructive criticism. A person who has secure beliefs and a high level of self-esteem will be able to notice the difference. They will be able to take those constructive comments and put them to good use by improving any mistakes, but those who are unwilling to appreciate such well-meant opinions will struggle for the rest of their lives barely floating above the tide.

Four Ways to Determine Whether a Criticism is Constructive or Destructive

1.  If the comment made critically points out personal flaws of a person only with the intention to showcase failures then this is destructive criticism.

2. If the feelings of other people are not part of the consideration process when expressing an opinion, then it is most definitely destructive criticism

3. If the opinions are charitable, but firm, then this correction has validity and is a form of constructive criticism.

4.  If the comment makes a suggestion and then provides a tangible solution, it is an excellent form of constructive criticism

Saturday, October 18, 2014

When You Cross The Road...

I know, I know, we all want to go through life assuming that the world should revolve around one and only one person, ME! Well it doesn't and yet again, I have another example to discuss with our readers.

Most of us would think that the idea of crossing a road should be pretty self-explanatory, if not, then you should have learned that as a pedestrian, crossing the road when the cars have a green light is mostly likely not a good idea. It's actually probably a horrible idea!

Yes, of course I have a story to back up this post about crossing the road. Several days ago, while waiting for a light to turn green I noticed a woman standing at the corner ready to cross the street. Well, did she decide to cross when the pedestrian light gave her the recommendation? Nope! She decided that it would be smarter to begin crossing a busy street after my light turned green. Because of course pedestrians have the right of way, no matter what.... Nope! Wrong again! There's a reason the pedestrian light comes on at a certain time, well because that's the safest time to cross a busy intersection. Not only did this woman cross the road when the cars had the right of way, but she also chose to do so at a very, very, no I mean a very slow pace (age was definitely not a factor to the slowness, let's just say it was a smartphone). I was not the only unhappy driver to say the least, but I kept my cool and sat and waited for her. Because patience is an active virtue, right?

What's the moral to this story? Well there is actually more than one!

The obvious one is that the woman's inconsiderate approach and choice to ignore the rest of society functioning around her was ridiculous selfish. Who needs to watch for cars when they will watch for me, right? Wrong again!

Another lesson was the response many of the drivers wanted to relay or did display towards the woman. Yes, she was inconsiderate, but screaming at her was not moving her along any faster. Even though I was irritated, and it gave me a great topic for a blog post, it also helped me work on something that I struggle with each and every day....PATIENCE!

Have a Safe and Happy Weekend!

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

An Autumn Bucket List To Remember

There's something special about a crisp cool autumn breeze. It seems that once September hits, everyone is ready for a season change. Here is Wisconsin we long for fall, but trend that winter comes next! Let's enjoy the warm fall temps before they disappear for several months!

Let's Make Some Autumn Memories!

(Makes 6 servings)
4 medium bananas, sliced and frozen overnight
1 cup pumpkin puree
1/3 cup maple syrup
1 1/2 tsp. pumpkin spice 

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Five Ways to Love Your Life!

It's a Happy Happy Day! 

Many people go through life only finding the negative things that surround them. But is this any way to live? It seems that this type of mentality would exhaust a person more than having a happy disposition. We felt that it was about time to comment on those negative people, not in order to criticize, but to give a few pointers on how to live, love, and laugh often! Life is too short, let's enjoy the moments of love and try to overcome heartaches with a smile. It isn't that we should ignore any sufferings, but we need to remember that everything shall pass.

5 Ways to Love Your Life!

  • Wake up each morning at the same time and preferably at an early time. (Depending on your work schedule, of course). There is no reason to waste your life away in bed. Carpe Diem! Waking up a bit earlier might give you a few extra minutes that you can enjoy by yourself with a warm cup of coffee and a good book.

  • Schedules are important, but they should never stress you out. If you are making a schedule to improve your chaotic lifestyle then that's a step in the right direction, but if this schedule is unrealistic and can never be achieved, don't push yourself into a state of despair. Adjust the schedule, little by little, so that it fits into your life appropriately. Remember, good things usually happen in small steps.
  • Smile more, laugh more and talk more! Take a moment the next time you are at the grocery store and count how many people you see smiling, usually the clerks aren't even happy. Well isn't it best to stand out from the norm, so make a point to smile at people, make them laugh, and engage in a conversation. Not a conversation all about YOU, but about the person standing in front of you because they deserve kindness too.
  • Take care of yourself. If you aren't happy about your life, your body image, your health, or your financial situation, then it's time you make changes. Of course, these changes won't happen overnight, but this is all about setting realistic goals. No one gets out of financial difficulties within 2 months, sometimes it take years or even a decade, but it can be done. Our society is based on wanting self-gratification immediately, but this is completely unrealistic. Find a friend or ask a professional for help to get you back on the right track. Never be afraid to ask for help, it's o.k. to be vulnerable.

  • Good Things Take Time! Don't expect your life to change without you initiating those changes. It is easy to pick up a bad habit, but it is so much more difficult to permanently fix those bad habits. They say it takes 21 days to fix a habit, that's almost a month. Give yourself a month before giving up on your goals! At no point in our lives will we be perfectly happy. There are too many factors outside of our control, but if we make the most of our situations, work to better ourselves, and assist those around us, life will always be good!

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Fabulous Bridal Shower Favors!

Bridal Showers have changed over the decades. Games have gone in and out of style, themes are all the rage right now, but we know that great food is always a must! One of our favorite things is creating unique, but practical Bridal Shower favors for the guests. Here are a few of our favorites!