Love, Friendships, and Appreciation

Written By: Danielle Silva Heckenkamp

ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE!

Good friends are hard to find and an everlasting love is even harder to find! But what makes a good friend?  Did it ever occur to you that a good friend needs to start with yourself and maybe, just maybe, you will then find that amazing person who will be there with you through thick and thin. Because isn't it true that people with similar characteristics are drawn to each other? So, are you a good friend? Are people drawn to you?

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• A good friend is never in the relationship for their own personal gain. Yes, we all want someone to talk with, to laugh with and to just be ourselves with, but I don't consider that personal gain as long as you desire the same for the other person. 

• Friends put their friends first! It's called devotion, dedication, compromise. We all have to learn these behaviors as adults, whether it's in the workplace, at home with our spouse, or with our family, but why do people think that this shouldn't exist within a friendship? It shouldn't matter where or how you and your friends spend time together, it just matters that you are together!

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• Take it easy. If you remember that it isn't all about you, it will make the relationship that much smoother. Friendships should never be exhausting, dramatic, or hurtful. We aren't in high school anymore, so it's time to weed out those bad, toxic friends.

• Love your friends. Appreciate their virtues and their vices. You should want to do everything in your power to be there for the people near and dear to you. Everyone desires a happy life, so why not work each day to make the lives of those you love a little bit happier, easier, and above all filled with LOVE! Because all we need is love, right?

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The Ripple Effect of True Friendship

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The word "friendship" has many different meanings in today's society.  It almost seems that a true friend is hard to find.  Our world has become so consumed with a "giv'me giv'me" attitude, where we no longer focus on anyone or anything but ourselves.  It's about, what are we going to get out of it, because if we don't get anything than it's not worth it....THIS IS THE WRONG WAY OF THINKING!

You all know that saying, "what goes around comes around", well this is very much true.  Maybe not in a week or a month or even a year, but it does all catch up with you, whether good or bad.  Friendship is about being there for someone, whether through a difficult time or just showing up with a few flowers on a rainy day.  The small gestures truly make a friendship, offering to watch another person's children, making lunch for a friend or just being there to listen.  The best quality of true friendships is the ability to be yourself, no matter what the price because good friends don't come out with false judgments  or criticisms.

Find a good friend, but more importantly, be a good friend!  Be the type of friend you would like to have and surprisingly enough, the perfect friend will come your way!  It all takes time, charity and a true sincerity for another person's well-being.  Let's face it, life is not all about you, but how society works as a whole.  Can you be the ripple effect of true friendship?

Step Down!

Written By: Ooh La La (Danielle Marie)

Have you ever been in those situations where it takes all your strength not to roll your eyes, say a harsh remark or even worse, reach across and slap that person?  Maybe it was their nasty comments, or the tone of their voice.  Maybe it's their rude facial expressions, or a horrid attempt to prove superiority and status?  Who hasn't dealt with these types of people?  Oh you haven't? Just wait, they come along right when you least expect it!  So, be prepared ahead of time.  How will you handle these confrontational situations?

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Pick Your Battles

It's sad to say, but these people who feel they need to "prove" something with their rudeness are not worth your time and should be shown some charity and pity for their classless courtesies.  It may not be the best time to put that person in their place, don't humiliate someone in front of a group of people.  Give them a little leeway, it might just be an off day for them!

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Don't Be A Pushover

Kindness and charity is possible without being a pushover!  Charity does not mean you are forced to let people walk all over you!  Charity is wishing what is well and good for every human being.  If this means a correction is due, think it over before creating a scene and maybe regretting your actions!  It might have a fruitless outcome if you are too emotional and unprepared!

A Short Sharp Statement

Confront the issue head on.  Sometimes a short, sharp statement is necessary.  This may help the nasty/rude comments to end!  Don't make everything into a dramatic scene, remain firm and calm!  Hopefully they will get the hint and maybe even walk away!

Word to the Wise...pick your battles!  You don't always have to embarrass someone, or make a big scene by their immature behaviors.  Correct them in private, if necessary, but try to show compassion, even when it's difficult to do!

If you can't fight it out, dance it out!